angry we-men

i was watching bachna ae haseeno the other day, i like the climax, for obvious reasons, deepika padukone, now before i start, its not about her, not about her in person, but the character she plays, very independent, very "she", very women... and the climax, when she does the whole angry scene, just bloms my mind. i really like it when women are angry, for some strange reason, i have respect for women who stand with their decision, but have a strong reason behind that stand, for me all that matters is the decision taken then, the work done then, the reason behind that decision then. this "women' friend of mine believes in "change" something that i truly respect. how can a guy be dynamic if he does not listen to the world around him ? another reason why i am ..frankly speaking attracted to angry women because unlike general girls they are very mature with what they say then, and im sure every body likes that.i feel i can take criticism if it comes with a good reason behind it, there is no harm in accepting your mistakes,even if the blame comes from a women, i say that here because many women feel its hard convicting a guy because of the size of their ego, but then like i always say, if you cant talk all to a friend, or cant be yourself, then its best to go different ways, it is always better to take your chances, let him know about the defects and then leave the "moving on" decision to him. i being a guy have been in many situations where i have let the other person know my views or opinions, and then parted ways. not my fault, he could not just take it, and quite frankly, i dont want to waste time with people who just cant accept the wrong they have done. another reason why i like angry women, because they do it with class, no foul language, no pointed fingers, very lady like. i am writing this because i have had my share of fights with women, some nice, some nasty, and some stupid. nice being, the perfect amalgamation of argument+reason, nasty, argument+reason+foul language. stupid, argument, argument, argument. this is why "needs to be a fighter" tops my list of 'i look for in a girl', its very simple, i dont want her to concur with me on everything i say, that not life, she has her ideas,she has her suggestions, well put it on the table, lets fight it out, we are all adults here, even if we dont come to a conclusion..umm.. nea. i dont like it.. we will come to a conclusion, and learn more about the future while struggling through the present. its very disappointing to know that there are people in the world who want a "gharelu biwi", "kaam karo apna". i dont like it, lets not keep the talk about equality only till our mouths,seep it deep inside so that we can pass it on to the coming generations, let them know that a fight is fair only if its person to person, and not boy to girl. जय श्री राम ॥

becoming "d"

aha.. finally, it had been so long since i wanted to blog about work. its nice, its good..and i like it..but not just that..the fact that i feel getting closer to being OIT as i spend time there, OIT, Office of Information technology.. at the rider university.. anyways.. like my heading says.. becoming D..becoming deep...becoming a worker there..and now a part of it.. i had heard many people say.. once you get working..and get working good..your life becomes your work..or vice versa..and i dont know if its for good or bad..but sitting idle.. doing nothing at work..or outside work..gets very frustrating..no.. im not a workaholic..but i need work atleast when im in office, i use it as a tool to stay away from all the politics and the gossip there..i strongly believe if you have work..you do work with all your might..and then..at the end of the day..you have no time to discuss anything else other than what you "did" today.. like every office, mine has its own share of problems and issues..which do come up every now and then..and with a million people talking about it..its very hard not to listen and react..but then, like i said.. i keep myself engrossed in work so much that i have got pretty good at it.. minding my own business..the other, a coworker..took this "attitude" of mine as a rude behavior.. it was very hard convincing him that i am still what i was when i joined, its just that, i have scope to do more work now, and so doing it.. its not me..but them who have "expanded" their "talk" to higher and more complex levels.... i would call myself "ignorant" when it comes to non-work-talk..i just dont care, i want my work to be clean and clear..and thats where the story ends for me..but yes, if you talk about my work, i will not stand there and listen..especially when i am not responsible for something that has gone wrong, there have been times when i have with sealed lips taking a beating for something that wasnt mine..but then, it comes with the job..i do have a line of control there, i try to measure my effort in solving a problem to the time convincing the other person that it wasnt me..and then i take the next step.. i have always told them, i am a slow learner, but when i get there, im good. i know office gossip is something that i have no control on, but i just hoped there was less of it around me..and i have become "d" because i dont want to be involved in anything else, except my work. i come, i work, i get payed.. is all i want, if you expect more greeting or "friendly" behavior from me..then you are probably in the wrong place.जय श्री राम ॥

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love storeys

long time no gyaan about the love stories... but nea.. not the regular stuff, as the name suggests.. its more about the "storeys" and how one..actually the pair climbs up the ladder.. why i use storeys here.. well..well..there is a reason, but i would rather not put it here..but lets just say its something thats happening around me..so.. storeys..before i start with it.. i must say, its not just about the relationship growing, couple do that all the time.. they graduate.. they evolve.. but this is more of a step that takes you higher or lower on the ladder.. im not sure if the ladder here...is life.. or their relationship.. i would prefer saying its life.. because relationship thing would fall into the "graduate" category.. anyways.. so from the beginning.. people meet..greet..talk..chat..lunches...dinners..breakfasts.. yes..in the same order..we do all this and more..but when do you exactly know if you have together taken the step up..i would not use "you"..how does the couple know if they have taken a step up or down.. is it always about the husband getting flowers for the wife.. or is it about the wife taking that extra care of the husband..i have often heard them say "he/she has changed a lot since then".. i think this phrase pretty much talks about one half of the picture..and hence..yet again fails to qualify as "a step" in the ladder. i will not talk about step down here.. because i feel its pretty obvious to know that. anyways, back to the the ladder..according to me... the best way to find if the couple is up the ladder is to ask the people around..i mean obviously, if you are the couple you wont go around and ask, but just observe if the people around you are the same with you like they were a year ago. it seems like too much homework, but believe me, its not, just make sure you are sincere to yourself and do have the correct tools to determine if the change is because of "us" or "them".90% of the things that blog about here takes a backseat when you really are in a situation like that, but i feel it still affects the action that you take then, maybe 10 years from now i wont be talking to my wife about ladders and if we are going up or down, but im sure there will be a certain parameter to measure our performance.."our" performance... not mine..and that would probably give us out the final verdict. जय श्री राम ।