love storeys

long time no gyaan about the love stories... but nea.. not the regular stuff, as the name suggests.. its more about the "storeys" and how one..actually the pair climbs up the ladder.. why i use storeys here.. well..well..there is a reason, but i would rather not put it here..but lets just say its something thats happening around me..so.. storeys..before i start with it.. i must say, its not just about the relationship growing, couple do that all the time.. they graduate.. they evolve.. but this is more of a step that takes you higher or lower on the ladder.. im not sure if the ladder here...is life.. or their relationship.. i would prefer saying its life.. because relationship thing would fall into the "graduate" category.. anyways.. so from the beginning.. people meet..greet..talk..chat..lunches...dinners..breakfasts.. yes..in the same order..we do all this and more..but when do you exactly know if you have together taken the step up..i would not use "you"..how does the couple know if they have taken a step up or down.. is it always about the husband getting flowers for the wife.. or is it about the wife taking that extra care of the husband..i have often heard them say "he/she has changed a lot since then".. i think this phrase pretty much talks about one half of the picture..and hence..yet again fails to qualify as "a step" in the ladder. i will not talk about step down here.. because i feel its pretty obvious to know that. anyways, back to the the ladder..according to me... the best way to find if the couple is up the ladder is to ask the people around..i mean obviously, if you are the couple you wont go around and ask, but just observe if the people around you are the same with you like they were a year ago. it seems like too much homework, but believe me, its not, just make sure you are sincere to yourself and do have the correct tools to determine if the change is because of "us" or "them".90% of the things that blog about here takes a backseat when you really are in a situation like that, but i feel it still affects the action that you take then, maybe 10 years from now i wont be talking to my wife about ladders and if we are going up or down, but im sure there will be a certain parameter to measure our performance.."our" performance... not mine..and that would probably give us out the final verdict. जय श्री राम ।